I wouldn't go so far as to call what Baby Daddy experienced as sexism, but there were times when the boys were younger that I could relate to the conversation he experienced.
I wonder if it's merely age-ism or generationalism, as opposed to sexism? Maybe it's just the group of fathers in Brandy's and my immediate circle, but paternal support and involvement feels more the norm. I'd say it's even our generation as a whole, but my sample size wouldn't make that necessarily accurate. I'd welcome other perspectives on that point.They saw you and said: “He’s so cute!” or “He’s so handsome!” and then they turned to your mama to call out all the problems they’ve seen in their lives.
Does he change diapers?
Yes.
Are you LYING?!?
No.
Does he feed him?!?!
Yes.
You’ve got to be kidding, right?
No.
Every question they asked dealt with that whole male conundrum of maleness. So often we think that fathers will not change, dress, or feed their children, but the truth is (I assume) that we do. It’s just not expected. And when the unexpected happens, we throw a big party.
I don't feel as if I'm doing more or less than any other father I know. Proper teamwork with your spouse simply means doing what needs to be done when it needs to be done. The two pitfalls? Waiting to be told to do it first, and keeping score, of course.
Probably not the best example, but there was a time when Mason was younger that drop-off and pickup at daycare fell on my shoulders. Now that Brandy works closer to home than I do, she has assumed that role. I spend a lot more time on the road than I used to, so when I am home, I try to get up in in the middle of the night if someone stirs, and I get breakfast when Sam and Ben rise early, because when I'm not here, that's all on Brandy's shoulders.
Being in tune with everyone's needs is obviously the key, and the teamwork aspect leads to it all evening out eventually.
p.s. While we're checking in on Baby Daddy, check out yesterday's soliloquy. Priceless.
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